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Survival Relationships

Excerpt from a quasi-coaching session of sorts

>For the first time, the lack of passion between us weighs down on me.

This sounds like good self self-awareness and some Emotional Intelligence.

I can relate, too. I have had this one woman in my life. Dated. Functional. Practical. Almost a survival relationship. Often people have relationships [...]

Defining Enjoyment Maximizes Joy

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He who enjoys doing and enjoys what he has done is happy. – Johann Wolfgang von Goethe, German Philosopher, Playwright and Author I finally understood the significance of “enjoy your [...]

Two Types of Learning

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There exist two types of learning: learning to understand more of what you don’t know learning that increases awareness of what you don’t know, making you aware of [...]

Didactic Lessons from Caveman Ancestors: Dreams

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In order to evolve our everyday life, which may be bland, denied, subtly suppressed or subdued, or mediocrity inadequate in some way, into an extraordinary exhilaration of our passions, pursuits and personal truths is precisely what [...]

Knowing Ourselves and Sincere Commitment

When we create a capacity for knowing ourselves –how we operate and function — we create sincerity about who we really are, and this self-knowledge allows us to apply ourselves with greater vehemence.  Science-fiction writer, Douglas Adams points out that we find our images of what we call evil things outside ourselves, in creatures that [...]

Want to Achieve Consisitent Success? "Trust" vs. "Hope" (Trust FTW, No Contest)!

In 2002, I wrote a novella called Hope-Rising (will add the link to pdf in a jiffy).  Since then I’ve realized I don’t like hope.  I like trust.  Hope triggers all kinds of uncertainties.  It places you out of control.  If you trust something will happen, it’s more likely to occur. This is far [...]

How Charlie Sheen Got His Name (Name Change Story)

I don’t really like focusing on celebrity hype but with the Charlie Sheen thing blowing up I thought I’d share a story of a name-change.  And unlike celebrity gossip, name-change stories actually do interest me (although exceedingly not as much as neuroscience, NLP, and other scientific topics).  To be clear, the core of this post [...]

Are You the Same Person You Were 10 Years Ago? (Ship of Theseus)

Updated 2012/02/14

This post is one in which I take great delight in writing.  In it I detail some concepts of metaphysics, a branch of philosophy that I find particularly intriguing, exciting, and noteworthy.  It delights me to write on the concept of “identity over time” because I have greatly pondered to as to the [...]

Great French, Aussie, & British Proverbs

As the aussies say: “Good on ya, mate!”  or proverbially ”The more you know, the less you need.” – Aboriginal Aussie Proverb.

As the French say: “Bonsoir, tres bon, monsieur.”  or proverbially “On ne change pas un équipe qui gagne.” (One does not change a winning team) and”Vaut mieux prévenir que guérir”  (It is better to prevent than to [...]

Respect and Judgment or Invalidation: A Subtle, Beautiful, and Important Distinction

Just partook on a great class discussion on judgment versus respect.   In addition to the class leader being a great facilitator, I’ve written a book on emotional validation and validity (and invalidity), and judgment and respect is a huge part of that, so I naturally had a lot of ideas resulting from the concept [...]

The Surprising Large Picture of What and Whom You Read!

Bloody hell I can’t wait until Derren Brown’s next book. Kindle version (I don’t buy paper-based books anymore…long story but a good one — saves trees, saves space, saves storage room ,saves shipping costs, easier to organize, etc) comes out oct. 14. Seems like ages away!!

I listen and relisten to the [...]

The Illuminating Prospect of Personal Anecdotes

I was on a live coaching conference call talking about different brain changes and patterns with some other coaches and I thought about the prospect of sharing a personal story.  We were discussing how adolescents can sometimes be sensitized to things that other people may deem as unproblematic, like, for example, not [...]

It’s not Life, It’s Time

Life — I dislike the word life.  It doesn’t exist.  “Life” is an over-inflated amalgam of accomplishments, time, desires, goals frequently utilized and inflated to grotesque proportions by self-help books.  There is no “life”.  There’s evolution; there’s cellular growth; there’s time.  I prefer to look at what I have is just time.  I don’t have [...]

I am not you, and you are not me — Transcending the Limitation of "Universal One"

I am not you, and you are not me.  That is the way things are.  I like that.  As you ponder that, let me explain to you why I find tremendous value in that distinction.

Distinctions create boundaries.  Without distinctions, everything would be porous and absorbing this information or that information would generate confusion. [...]

Wanna Be a Great Entrepreneur? Buy a Hat Rack!

The whole “work hours” thing is a foreign concept to me. Maybe because I just don’t make a distinction between work and play, or (most likely) I just always work.  Sometimes I wake up and start work at 2am. Sometimes I just don’t ever go to sleep and take a nap in the middle of [...]

Comprehensive Success — The Three Categories of People Medicine! (Part 2)

Installing the Three Types of People Medicine:  Continuity

This is the second part of the  Comprehensive Success — The Three Categories of People Medicine! (Part 1) Installment.

We had a ton of positive feedback from the first installment, so here’s part two — making it happen!

Newsletter, by the way, is in the works. [...]

I like to swim upstream and my Future is my Past

I like to swim upstream. What this means? Life is a circular mote flowing downstream. Life’s a gigantic circular mote. Most people float and surrender to the currents’ of life’s river. And the unaware people don’t pick up on the fact that it’s merely one gigantic circle they keep revolving in. I’ve surrendered. I’ve [...]

No More Religious Board Games! Anti-Christianity and Human Herbivore!

Finally, the best article on (anti) Christianity that I needed to read to reaffirm my new intentions, emerging beliefs, and values (Basically I’ve realized that all religions are just clever cult-worshipping myths. They’re just elaborate myths, fables. Jesus isn’t any different from the Hare in the tortoise and the hair or Buddha isn’t any different [...]

Safe Plastics, Healthy Ocean!!

safe plastics healthy ocean article. My questions. what plastics are safe? Other than buying unwrapped produce, how can I as a consumer not contribute to ocean toxic waste and help the environment? If I have to buy plastic-wrapped items is there any kind that’s “safer”? I’m a HUGE fan of reusing containers and I do. [...]

Getting And Staying Organized with UMSD

Basically this specific part is messy and infected with a lot of David Allen’s GTD muck. Frankly GTD is too bloated of an organizational system; you take on a lot of crap you don’t need if you use it. It has some great concepts but as a whole the system sucks. So I’m on the [...]

NLP Associated/Dissociated State

“A state is our way of being in any moment It comes from our physiology.thinking and emotions, and is greater than the sum of its parts. Weexperience states from the inside, but they have external markers that canbe measured from the outside, like a particular frequency of brain waves,pulse rate, etc. But none of these [...]

The Machinist Notes

Machinist INteresting b/c He has to seperate himself from all “potential relationships” (the hooker gf, the “quasi-friends at the plant, etc” so he can do himself justice and turn himself in. His compulsion for honesty is was intuitively causes him to sever all those relationships subconsciously. The severings (chopping off arms, throwing dishes at the [...]

The Difference between Miramax, Universal, Touchstone Pictures, New Line and all that!

Are they production? Are they for film or productions? Who produces tv or film? How do they handle copyrights or distribution?

Why would anyone want to know this? Or who the hell cares? I DO!! If you’re watching film and have half a brain to think about the process of “How the hell [...]

Tuesday News Blip: Phoenix Lander!

Astronomy: The Phoenix craft of the “Mars Scout Program” to mars is a $475 million mission to launch and land the Phoenix spacecraft on the surface of Mars and explore it. When you consider the massive undertaking of such a project, NASA’s slim budget of $475 million is extremely frugal, pennies really, but despite it’s [...]

News Blip: Marathon, Apple Tech, and Felines

Athletics: Roger Bannister, born almost 80 years ago, in 1929, was the first human ever to run a mile in under four-minutes. He accomplished this amazing feat in 1954 during a track meet in Oxford, UK. The winds were high at first, died down, Bannister ran, and when the announcer announced his time of [...]