I just had a coaching session as part of my certification. I didn’t mind the client; he was really upbeat and had a decent structure. Strangely, the few times where there were telecommunicatio ndiffucltes and he couldnt’ understand a word I was saying or I couldn’t understand a few words he was saying THAT telecommunicaiton difficulty turned out to be a fantastic anecdote! I was talking about Britain. I mentioned how I had had the tendency of looking at “places” (different geographical locations, cities, countries, or local places) as solutions. [...]
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Selecting Uplifting Outcomes
A fellow coach posted a series of question on taking action. I’ll list the question and then what I think each question accomplishes under each quesiton -What’s the first step you need to take? -What would someone, who is fearless, do about this? -What needs to happen now? -What would it make sense to do now? -Can you come up with some action steps to take this week? -What is the risk involved in this if you do not do it? -What is stopping you from moving forward? -Acknowledge movement [...]
Respect and Judgment or Invalidation: A Subtle, Beautiful, and Important Distinction
Just partook on a great class discussion on judgment versus respect. In addition to the class leader being a great facilitator, I’ve written a book on emotional validation and validity (and invalidity), and judgment and respect is a huge part of that, so I naturally had a lot of ideas resulting from the concept of respect versus invalidity/judgment. My ultiimate perception was, the distinction between between respect and judgment is: Subtle Beautiful Significant Think about that as you read this post. Judgment can often be (deleteriously so) misconstrued as [...]
Goal-Setting is Fail
I’ve given Goal-Setting a lot of thought….and experience…..and saw it lead to a lot of failures…and occasional successes….but ultimately I’ve learned tha goal-setting is a fail agenda and a behavior that denigrates clarity and induces self-doubt all while unnecessarily increasing otherwise-avoidable stress. Some of these may sound like semantics, but it really isn’t. These different ways of looking at achievements changes the way your brain interprets goals and then achieve the outcome(s). Here’s Why and How Goal-Setting is Fail: Inadequacy. Goal-Setting is BY DEFINITION intrinsically and inextricably intertwined with INADEQUACY! [...]
It’s not Life, It’s Time
Life — I dislike the word life. It doesn’t exist. “Life” is an over-inflated amalgam of accomplishments, time, desires, goals frequently utilized and inflated to grotesque proportions by self-help books. There is no “life”. There’s evolution; there’s cellular growth; there’s time. I prefer to look at what I have is just time. I don’t have “life”. What is life? That’s like asking What’s an idea? I have a commodity and that is time. Focusing on life bleeds your focus away from the valuableness of time. Life is an absurd and [...]
You Only Affect Your Own Emotions
I also must know YOU can only impat your emotions. I (or anyone) can offer suggestions or advice or praise or insults but it’s up to you to feel good. Everyone’s in charge of their own emotional state. You are neither obligated nor have the power nor have the capacity to boost or change anyone’s emotional state. Sure, you can know what triggers things in people but that is still THEM. If I went to Africa, the same thigns I talk about here to boost people’s moods may not work [...]
Moving Away From What Don’t Want, Towards What Want.
Here’s the Translations of the fields of study that I eliminated to their present and future and these may likely slightly fluctuate but meh. I’ve evolved my past 5 studies to more uplifting, validating, clarifying studies. The transduction are as follows: Psychology —> Video Games! Simply the opposite of psychology. Instead of imprisoning one self with self-dialogue “snares” , actually just doing things in a game or real world. Escaping prison of mind. This one’s complex and I fully don’t understand it honestly, but it’s something along the lines of [...]
Connecting with the Flexible Person: Save Money, Time, and Distress in Travel
One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned in travel is that different people have different flexibilities. Use this to your advantage. The ultimate example: I flew Dubai airlines. To say the least, it doesn’t allow as much checked-bagged weight as they allow in usa. My extra kilos would’ve cost me $980. I eliminated much of the weight but was still 1.5 kilos overweight and at $70/kilo I should’ve been charged 105 dollars. I approached a different clerk and he off-handedly said “Oh it’s only 1.5 kilos over. No problem.” And [...]
The Gnarly Outcome Frame
This article is primarily about the outcome frame: applying it, it’s inherent awesomeness, and connecting up with what you want, need and deserve in life through utilizing the outcome frame. Picture your life — I’m serious. Actually do this. Visualize. You’ve discarded all your crappy cult of hollywood movies by now, right? So you have to start to visualize. Do this. — after everything’s done. Picture your life after: The website is up and completed All your sales, all your products are not just available, but there’s a high turnover [...]
Purpose and Tools for Getting There
Purpose and Tools for Getting There Defining Purpose and Tools to get there. GREAT Lucid Ideas I asked myself what my purpose in life is. I couldn’t figure it out. So I asked, “Okay, what definitely IS NOT my purpose in life?”. I thought about it and said, “to wear socks — my purpose on life is definitely NOT to wear socks.” That’s great!! Why because that process of elimination helps define some crucial criteria for better solidifying and illuminating what I my purpose IS on the planet. The [...]
The Power of "I’m not Interested"
“I’m not interested”. “I love your energy and you’re doing a great job selling, but I’m not interested, mate.” “I can tell you REALLY want me to, but not interested. Thanks though! Happy travels!” “No, zero interested”. There’s magic in those phrases. There’s abundant, liberating, FREEDOM in those phrases. What do those phrases do? Those phrases reclaim your time. Those phrases reclaim your life. In life, all you really have is time. It’s arguable that you have decisions and time, but for someone committed to taking action (less decision-making), you [...]
4 Methods of Responding to Questions.
“There are these four ways of answering questions. Which four? There are questions that should be answered categorically [straightforwardly yes, no, this, that]. There are questions that should be answered with an analytical (qualified) answer [defining or redefining the terms]. There are questions that should be answered with a counter-question. There are questions that should be put aside.These are the four ways of answering questions. ”– Buddhist Quote Redefine-Straightup-Counter-Discard = 4 Response! Straigthforward-answer, redefinition of terms, counter-question, neglect/discard the question = Straightup beverage, “what ingredients are in that drink?”, “is [...]
Heroic Journey of My Coaching Process
First off I noticed that the ICA Coaching Process Diagram resembles Joseph Campbell’s Hero of a Thousand Faces 12-phases of the heroic Journey. Joseph campbell is an author of mythology and kind of mythological dissection. He went back and scrutinized myriad myths and plugging in some Jungian archetypes extracting some archetypes, he extracted these 12 stages that occur in almost every myth be it 1970s star wars or a 500 bc folktale. And the phases involve a departure, encountering obstacles, tests, helpers, return, seizing the elixir and others. so the [...]
Easier exercise, better temperature, smoother reading, and improved home. How? Law of Contrast!
Question. You’re drinking a cup of lukewarm tea? You want to have it taste warmer. How do you make it taste warmer without a stove, microwave or anyway to heat the tea?? Think about this. It’s a riddle. Now the answer to our riddle as you may have guess. Answer: You drink a cup of frigid icewater!! Seriously, try this is it’s amazing. The contrast principle seriously does work on a neurological level as well as perceptive level. If you have a bowl of lukewarm water that you want to [...]
Advanced Coach AC110: Challenging Clients
Advanced Coach AC110: Challenging ClientsRonnie NoiseThis is pretty off topic but it does propose an alternative viewpoint to the question of uniquely or “colorfully” challenging clients. And that was “screamers”. LOL! We started discussing corporate clients who scream apparently. Now, the idea of corporate managers screaming like literally increasing the loudness of their voice and shouting was an entirely new, fascinating, and hilariously amusing topic. New. Wait, what? It’s common for corporate managers to scream? Scream at whom coworkers? People lower in the hierarchy? Are they screaming during a sales [...]
Foundation Coaching FC102: Perspective 2
w/Ronnie Noize “What if you asked to be born?” This is a fascinating question. It sparks and generates allusions to fate, destiny, and having a life mission and purpose. With questions like “Am I just feeling out life?” Did I signup for life to “Investigate life?” It makes you cognizant with your relationship to life! You start to think, “Did I ask to be born because I wanted to party and life’s a party?” or What about a mission or purpose, “Did I ask to be born to complete or [...]
Why I’m Stoked about Lifecoaching Training!
I can’t get over how awesome this is. Namely for the following reasons: 1. Health. This SERIOUSLY has got to be one of the most aligning and emotionally healthy experiences possible. I mean talking with a coach is inspiring, and becoming a coach is empowering, but interacting and exchanging with the hub of coaches becoming coaches, coaching each other and it’s like 100% pure premium motivational energy in it’s raw form! All the law of attraction and intention weaved in to with the enthusiasm of other coaches and that nourishes [...]
Buying Bulk Saves Money, Time, the Environment: Win-Win-Win
Buying in bulk solves three problems very vital problems in life. Buying in bulk boost finances, is healthy from a temporal-sentient point of view, and keeps our planet cleaner and less polluted. Oh, you don’t understand how did my mental-math? I’ll show my work: Saving money. Anyway you cut it, whether it be bulk salmon or bulk soap, purchasing in bulk means less marketing costs for the individual items and a closer to wholesale price which means less expensive, and more mullah (that stays) for your pocket! Saving Time. Buying [...]
634 Contacts! 100% Pure, Premium Concentrated Contacts!
I had 634 which was INSANE. I whittled it down to 514, but still want to edit it and get rid of a lot. Felt awesome to sort through them (all electronic of course, Apple Address Book); if you still use paper non-electronic address books, don’t even respond, you’re too outdated. Wondered what criteria people use for saving/editing out contacts. I’ve got work, biz, friend, random project, old new contacts from everything; am structuring it so get the most use though. I asked around and got answers like 14, 28, [...]
Non-Brand ≠ Bland. Generic Brand or Making your own Stuff Generates Confidence and Soothing Reward.
I’m beginning to see how the working world works. How people invent products that are completely useless, copying various competitor brands, when always the simplest (and cheapest) is always the best. The simple best cheapest products stand out on a store shelf. Example: I went to go pick up dog shampoo. I knew the only thing I need for my awesome dog is 2 bowls (1 for food, 1 for water), huge bag of food, a deshedding brush, and doggie shampoo. SCREW all of those mini expensive toy, chemical, brushy, [...]
Phone Conversations – The Best Ones and How to End on a High Plateau!
we talked about the like design of our diploma, thomas being a doctor, my awesome NLP stuff I loved, That felt like a REAL conversation. A great and valuable and meaningful conversation, too! Because we talked about something obscure (a lot of my conversations are like my reciting some blog post or future blog post sometimes haha!) the diplomas, thomas being a doctor — stuff that basically only we could have a conversation a bout, so that made it more fun and rewarding and meaningful too. On that topic, what [...]
Changing Your Life Program
Basically what you’re going through is changing your life program. Everyone has a life prgram — a series of steps and procedures, strategies, and environmental cues that make what they do simpler, easier, and feel more productive. I remember doing some work for a comedy club in North Hollywood. I planned to make some calls to invite more people to the club. To do that I had access to the back office which cut through the kitchen, where I could see the chef at work. Now the chef had all [...]
Getting And Staying Organized with UMSD
Basically this specific part is messy and infected with a lot of David Allen’s GTD muck. Frankly GTD is too bloated of an organizational system; you take on a lot of crap you don’t need if you use it. It has some great concepts but as a whole the system sucks. So I’m on the process of writing up details of my own system. For computers, it basically uses all online documents, almost all documents on hard drives are backups. It consolidates consolidates consolidates!! All like files. It gets all [...]
