Excerpt from a quasi-coaching session of sorts >For the first time, the lack of passion between us weighs down on me. This sounds like good self self-awareness and some Emotional Intelligence. I can relate, too. I have had this one woman in my life. Dated. Functional. Practical. Almost a survival relationship. Often people have relationships to endure something (school, work) and when that is over (i.e. graduation with a school-relationship), the relationship falters (often surprisingly to the couple). Then this other woman. Passion. Instant connection. Joy but fleeting, poetic, without [...]
executive coaching
Although executive coaching is slightly on the backburner with the site now emphasizing tech, skills of sherlock, and productivity and minimalism, executive coaching is an area of expertise and (although more prominently in the past) Validate Your Life offers executive coaching for career, relationships, health, and organization-productivity goals, aspirations and fulfillment.
Trick for Converting Fahrenheit to Celcius, the English Separatist Boat, Refreshingly Jovial Chilly Air, and Proper Ideological Evolution
What’s in store for you in this post: factoids about the boat that transported English Separatists to “America” in the early 17th century details about the inventors of major forms of temperature measurement some interesting rants of ideological evolution finally, the original intention, a mnemonically-helpful presentation of a mathematical formula enabling smooth conversion between the two measurements Enjoy. Two years before he died in 1742 (meaning he croaked in 1744), the Swedish Astronomer Anders Celcius1 invented, well as you might guess, the Celcius scale for temperature measurement. Meanwhile, Daniel Gabriel Fahrenheit, [...]
Notes on Rick Steves
My raw notes from watching Rick Steves @ Google Authors. I suggest you check out the clip. Interesting tips and quite humorous and amusing with a few wise messages on quality travel, something I like to think I’ve done a bit of. Notes on travel. Accept that you’re part of the scene (even as a tourist or traveler or whatever); you’re part of the scene. Accept that. Wow, at about 22:00 Rick talks about the distinction of traveling for “travel” and traveling for a break. The latter is duty-free-shops, sunscreen [...]
Medieval Times Career-Progression
“In the Middle Ages, the time served apprentice went off as a journeyman to gain experience with a number of masters, and then settled down under one master he got on with. Here he would produce his masterpiece – literally, the piece of work that proved he was a master. This recognised by the Guild, he became a master himself” -Kupfernigk, Slashdot This is really interesting. The career-progression path in the Middle Ages was Apprentice Journeyman under a Master Masterpiece production Master, consequentially of Guild recognizing masterpiece I think that’s [...]
Do You Want to Be Successful? Be Precise!
Everyone possessing a modicum interest in success, learns precision. From musicians hitting the right note on time, to engineers designing electric circuits, to wordsmiths selecting the most clever phraseology from their diction, to computer scientists optimizing their code, to any profession. Everyone focused on success, focuses on precision.
Solutions to Preventing Stymied Social Reconciliation
Stories and Examples of Being Stuck Due to Failing to Socially Reconcile I was engaging in this form of interaction (I guess it could be called an experience) and started a cluster in the interaction; I was the head-honcho, the “boss” and orchestrator of this cluster of players. It was definitely one of the best social clusters in the whole interaction. The problem was that it was purely social. I couldn’t progress in a way that was good for me, acquiring gear and items that I needed and wanted, wouldn’t [...]
Want to Successfully Do Your Scheduled Action Items? Utilize Your Cognitive Tendencies for Action!
The Ways I work. One of the ways I’ve noticed I do things is by deciding to do something else and then randomly changing it AND scheduling something ahead of time. This is complex, but it amazingly works. First off, I was plagued by scheduling things on a calendar and then 90% of the time NOT doing them. Then I noticed when I scheduled something like “give self haircut” or “go for a bike ride” I ended up doing that or something similar a few days before the actual event! [...]
Focus on What you Want, Not What you Don’t Want
Install the Walloping Shift If you feel stuck trying to eliminate some object, some habit, some clutter, try this strategic walloping shift. Most people focus on how much they dislike something to do away with it; they erroneously think this is a winning strategy to eliminate something. Indeed, this creates a repulsion and an emotional distance from an entity (an item, a person, a place, a habit), but it is impossible to disconnect from something by focusing on, even if you concentrate only negative thoughts! I did this with [...]
Succeed with PIVOT
PIVOT is yet another VYL-Created technique. It’s very catchy, considerably more complex than SPS (rightfully so given intention of SPS!), and cognitively caters to how the brain works, ensuring that the neo-cortex quickly picks up and absorbs the functionality of this technique. In other words, this technique has been designed to be “appetizing” for your brain; by increasing the cognitive congruence, the effectiveness of PIVOT is increased as well! Groovy! The basic break-down of the acronym is: P – Positives of Problem I – Ideal Prevention V – Valiant Willing [...]
The Meditative Gadget
The Meditative Gadget While many of his techniques and superbly incomparable skills of deduction and observation were certainly accomplished with invisible tools, it was obvious that Sherlock Holmes relaxed and sharpened his razor-sharp mind while playing the violin. Watson knew that Holmes was in a meditative trance of higher clearer, cleaner thinking when practicing his violin. He would often play his instrument to peacefully rejoice after solving a case or while working through the conundrums of unraveling a plot. The former occurs at the end of The Red-Headed League after [...]
Is a Coach like a Consultant or a Teacher?
Time:03:47 Edify on the Go! A coach is often erroneously misconstrued1 as a consultant and/or teacher/mentor. Your average consultant is printing out graph charts and presenting research data. The average teacher is shoving in and ideally delivering knowledge to the students’ minds (a fairly noble task,indeed). Now think of someone helping you achieve your goals by delivering cognitively transformative questions and code so your mind and body congruently cooperate to achieve the success you want. That’s why a coach is different. Additionally, a coach kind of overlaps more with a [...]
Be the Cat Vet – Play the Finding Treats Game!
Time: 09:12 Edify on the Go! This anecdotal and enjoyable game eases your feline friend into your small office, home, or a room or any place that you may want your cat to connect if it is a bit skittish. ‘Play the Finding Treats Game’ is fun, your cat enjoys it, and it actually brings out some natural skills of the wild. Although your feline friend is domesticated, your cat DOES believe he or she is still in the wild! Evidence of this is the fact that they cover their [...]
Schedule Your Calendar with Structured TimeFrames and TimeScapes
Introduction “For just at that moment the light came over the hill, and there was a mighty twitter in the branches. William never spoke for he stood turned to stone as he stooped; and Bert and Tom were stuck like rocks as they looked at him1.” That is an excerpt from possible the greatest fantasy novel of all time, J.R.R. Tolkien’s The Hobbit. In that little scene, three trolls were distracted by the cunning and clever voice of Gandalf whom made them lose track of time and stay out past [...]
Beckham: Polished, Styling, Sharp Image
Edify on the go! Time: I’m planning to read a bit more on Beckham as someone who, for lack of better words, has “wired himself efficiently”. He has healthy habits and I admire his polished style and his OCD organization and he’s ONE good looking man and he plays soccer; Beckham is frickin’ awesome. I heard a story about him being the only car that pulled over and helped someone on the side of the road. The man, I’ll say it again, has wired himself well. He has good beliefs. [...]
Emotions are Not Funny Things: Ekman and Serious Alignment
45:32 Edify on the go! I was going to start by writing that “emotions are funny things”, something trivial, nuanced, minimizing the impact of emotions. But emotions are not funny things. They’re very serious and trivializing them would be like scoffing at an oncoming car while you’re in the middle of the rooad. Emotions effect our relationships, our appearance, our interactions, our perceptions, our mood, our energy levels, our habits and patterns, and seriously a very large number of things in life. So emotions are NOT “funny things”. In away, [...]
The Preventive Wholistic Doctor
Edify on the go! The aim and fulfilment of discovering name, identity, and home is a journey only done by the heroic. I identify myself as a preventive wholistic doctor (some people would call me a productivity coach, however, and, indeed, I am a Certified Professional Coach). Back to the preventic wholistic doctor: Preventive because before seeing your GP, you see me; wholistic because I deal with relationship, emotional, productivity areas of life. Just like before seeing the surgeon, you see the GP, I’m the first line of defense. If [...]
The 3-Hour Pattern Absolute Rule: Ultimate Health “Awake” Technique
Edify on the Go! I’ve tried to write this post 3 times but had technical difficulties and have had to undergo three drafts. Fortunately, that also gave me three shots at revisions! Here’s what I’ve surmised. The principle: Eat nothing until three hours (or longer) after waking up. It’s incredibly simple but catalyzes profoundly uplifting physiological, mental, cognitive, productive, digestive, health, and awareness consequences. Timing – Focusing in nutrition (or not engaging nutrition, or planning the later part of the day’s nutrition) for the first three hours of the day [...]
Want to Maximize Health and Productivity? Stay on Your Feet!
Edify on the go with this audio download! This is one of the Top 5 Productivity Posts! To some, this may sound repulsively unpleasant, insane, too demanding or have myriad other reasons for why that is impossible. I am at a standing desk writing this, literally looking down on this old cramped, antiquated, squashed desk. The idea of getting work done on such a cramped thing is frightening and unquestionably preposterous. While at the standing desk, I get much more done, work flies, things are enjoyable, and life and work [...]
Defining Enjoyment Maximizes Joy
Listen to this post in audio blog format! Running-Time: 16:45 or feel free to download this post for later listening at your convenience. He who enjoys doing and enjoys what he has done is happy. – Johann Wolfgang von Goethe, German Philosopher, Playwright and Author I finally understood the significance of “enjoy your life”. People have said that to me on occasion and I always felt like responding “Well, I sort of am already!”. But here’s what I realized. I (and you) am going to die. In the span of [...]
15 Ways of Changing your State after Becoming Aware of Your State
Edify on the Go! Download this audio blog to edify on the go. 1. Change Physiology (posture, smile, breath deeply Change state, jumping up and down, long run, physiological shift.; physiology overrides thought) 2. Move and Exercise (releasing beta-endorphins which are powerful mood enhancers) 3. Change breathing 2x inhale changes carbon dioxide concentration 4. Laughter (releases beta-endorphins and changes breathing) 5. Change your vision — look slightly upwards and utilize peripheral vision 6. Pay attention to someone else and their concerns 7. Use resource and or kinesthetic anchors 8. Eat [...]
Two Types of Learning
Edify on the Go! Listen to this post in audio blog format. or feel free to download this post for later listening at your convenience. There exist two types of learning: learning to understand more of what you don’t know learning that increases awareness of what you don’t know, making you aware of compartments of knowledge you previously didn’t even know existed. I’ll elaborate on type-2 learnings. You can’t learn “something new”, if y you don’t know that thing exists! If you don’t know about yoga, you can’t say anything [...]
Didactic Lessons from Caveman Ancestors: Dreams
Edify on the go! Listen here or download the audio recording of this post! In order to evolve our everyday life, which may be bland, denied, subtly suppressed or subdued, or mediocrity inadequate in some way, into an extraordinary exhilaration of our passions, pursuits and personal truths is precisely what allows us to encourage growth in the area of dreams. This area has a development, an evolution, just like humans. Human evolution started with the dryopithecines branch of ape diverged from the monkey line 20 to 30 million years ago. [...]
Maximize Productivity with Less Options and OWEB
Less options is better with Some things. Having less options is better and increases productivity in many ways. Just having that “one” outlet partitions off your focus so it goes to that area increasing channeled improvement. For awhile I had multiple computer systems. It was a headache whenever I needed to tweak, edit, or do writing projects (on book(s), on blogs and the like) or accomplish a task, or edit films, or anything because I had to make a choice about which system it would be on. People always talk [...]
Knowing Ourselves and Sincere Commitment
When we create a capacity for knowing ourselves –how we operate and function — we create sincerity about who we really are, and this self-knowledge allows us to apply ourselves with greater vehemence. Science-fiction writer, Douglas Adams points out that we find our images of what we call evil things outside ourselves, in creatures that know nothing of such matters, so that we can feel revolted by them, and by contrast, good about ourselves” (47)[1]. This type of projection occurs all the time, and with the specific case with Adams, [...]
British Words Mind-Map
I have been working on, collecting, archiving, nit-picking and amending this growing list of british words and phrases I love for many years. All that data was in a simple text file, and just recently decided to throw it in a mindmap (much clearer to visually access the information) and share the british phrases I like and of which I would like to use more!
