“Because if you are like most people, then like most people, you don’t know you’re like most people. Science has given us a lot of facts about the average person, and one of hte most reliable of these facts is that hte average person doesnt’ see herself [or himself] as average. Most studnets see themselves [...]
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Excerpt from a quasi-coaching session of sorts >For the first time, the lack of passion between us weighs down on me. This sounds like good self self-awareness and some Emotional Intelligence. I can relate, too. I have had this one woman in my life. Dated. Functional. Practical. Almost a survival relationship. Often people have relationships [...] [audio: http://validateyourlife.com/vylab/vylab_20110915_bcvfindingtreatsgame.mp3] Time: 09:12 Edify on the Go! This anecdotal and enjoyable game eases your feline friend into your small office, home, or a room or any place that you may want your cat to connect if it is a bit skittish. ‘Play the Finding Treats Game’ is fun, your cat enjoys it, and [...] [audio: http://www.validateyourlife.com/vylab/vylab_20110823_emotionsnotfunnyekman.mp3] 45:32 Edify on the go! I was going to start by writing that “emotions are funny things”, something trivial, nuanced, minimizing the impact of emotions. But emotions are not funny things. They’re very serious and trivializing them would be like scoffing at an oncoming car while you’re in the middle of the rooad. [...] I don’t really like focusing on celebrity hype but with the Charlie Sheen thing blowing up I thought I’d share a story of a name-change. And unlike celebrity gossip, name-change stories actually do interest me (although exceedingly not as much as neuroscience, NLP, and other scientific topics). To be clear, the core of this post [...] At the end of the existential play “No Exit”, Sartre’s character says “well, let’s get on with it” implying that they’re going to have to repeat the absurd and tormenting thing all over again. That play is about three people who each upon arriving in Hell find, instead of medieval torture devices, simply a quaint [...]
I was on a live coaching conference call talking about different brain changes and patterns with some other coaches and I thought about the prospect of sharing a personal story. We were discussing how adolescents can sometimes be sensitized to things that other people may deem as unproblematic, like, for example, not [...] I also must know YOU can only impat your emotions. I (or anyone) can offer suggestions or advice or praise or insults but it’s up to you to feel good. Everyone’s in charge of their own emotional state. You are neither obligated nor have the power nor have the capacity to boost or change anyone’s [...] Top Reasons Why People Find it Difficult to Let go of Hurtful People Fear of Rejection Strange, but true. Fearing to cross someone off your list means you somewhat fear rejection from others. Don’t ever fear rejection; you must interpret everything merely as feedback! Fear of People Attacking Back You may fear people retaliating. [...] Important words here. Excluding dangerous, abusive and destructive people, habits, and things from you life does not classify as “holding grudges”. Protecting yourself, your mind, your life, from people that hurt you, make you feel neglected, make you feel shitty, lost, confused, and foul does yourself a favor. Whenever you put time into “thinking” [...]
One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned in travel is that different people have different flexibilities. Use this to your advantage. The ultimate example: I flew Dubai airlines. To say the least, it doesn’t allow as much checked-bagged weight as they allow in usa. My extra kilos would’ve cost me $980. I [...] I’ve given this a tremendous amount of thought. No, more. I’ve written chapters in books to this topic. No…More. I’ve devoted many years of my life to interacting with people and trying to treat all people as equal of equal intelligence. My mantra, rubric, guideline, personal manifesto, what have you, was something along the [...] “So men are not from Mars, nor are women from Venus. Men and women are from Africa, the cradle of our evolution, where they evolved together as a single species. Men and women have all the same genes except for a handful on the Y chromosome, and their brains are so similar that it takes [...] Hear This In FULL as a free podcast! If you like what you hear. Be sure to check out the “Audio” page of http://www.validateyourlife.com for more inspiration and clarity! People Categories Categorize People in I’ve noticed those three distinctions VERY clearly in friends but instead of just categorizing appropriately the “friend” as a Drag [...] I stumbled across a flirting, date “tip”. This was phrased as a tip and it was about self-touch. It detailed that if a woman is interested in a man, she will touch her chest, leg. I know (because I’ve dated women and we’ve discussed how they don’t subscribe to that) that some women do not [...] “There are these four ways of answering questions. Which four? There are questions that should be answered categorically [straightforwardly yes, no, this, that]. There are questions that should be answered with an analytical (qualified) answer [defining or redefining the terms]. There are questions that should be answered with a counter-question. There are questions that should [...] just woke up, just water, wore black (Great), no food, no coffee before, energizing awesome convo. good. I saw a darren brown and david tennant clip (for darren’s tv show) and I relized that they went out into public to have a woman draw a picture and david was supposed to have predicted [...] State Calibration Body language can never lie; words and statements, however, can. Learning to calibrate increases your ability to know what a person is feeling. This becomes extremely potent when trying to eliminate confusion in communication and also to avoid getting deluded with words. In Neuro-Linguistic Programming, State Calibration is just “indicators” of a person’s [...] Very Cool list of 4 Personality types on persuasion blog. This article covers the driver, which may be my personality most often. Although I can definitely relate to amiable, analytical and definitely expressive, too. I may be analytical; highly likely with a few expressive or driver traits. My brother James seems to be analytical. My [...] we talked about the like design of our diploma, thomas being a doctor, my awesome NLP stuff I loved, That felt like a REAL conversation. A great and valuable and meaningful conversation, too! Because we talked about something obscure (a lot of my conversations are like my reciting some blog post or future blog post [...] The Assignment:Practice Rapport and Mismatching!!! — 2 Phone Convos — in phone call observe auditorally the quality of the conversation with matching voice tone nad language rapport and then see how easy (hopefully) it is to end the call when you mismatch rapport (speaking loud if voice is soft, soft if loud slow if fast, [...] |
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